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Inlägg #1: Postat: 2002-05-22 14:13:00
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Anders |
Nej, känslor är inte svårt. Det är möjligen svårt att vara ärlig mot sig själv som man säger, men känslor, icket!
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Inlägg #2: Postat: 2002-05-22 23:43:00
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elin |
känslor är jättesvårt. de kommer och går och förändras, byter skepnad. negativa känslor härstammar från vår mest primära känsla: rädsla. för att bli övergiven, obekräftad, rädsla för livet. vi är också rädda för rädslan själv. vi vill helst kyla över den med principer vi intalar oss härstammar ur vad som är rätt och riktigt. sanningen är att de endast berättar hur vi känner oss för tillfället.
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Inlägg #3: Postat: 2002-05-23 11:25:00
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Frederik |
I rather agree with Anders. As you say yourself feelings are how you feel at the moment though if you decide to cling to some feelings rather than let them come and go as they usually do such moments can be very long. With a little bit of introspection however it is relatively easy to see ones feelings for what they are.
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Inlägg #4: Postat: 2002-05-23 11:27:00
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Frederik |
What is difficult is our *choice* of what to do about them. And in the end it is those choices - and not the feelings as such - that show in how far we are truly loving persons. Love is not a feeling. Feelings may feed it, but its source lies much deeper. And loving, since it continuously involves such choices, is often very difficult. As it seems Johnnys father was unable to do that when it mattered most.
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Inlägg #5: Postat: 2002-05-23 12:29:00
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Frederik again |
Sorry, Elin, I think I misunderstood your last sentence. Though if I got it right this time then I disagree with you even more. If I base my principles only on my feelings of the moment then my whole life is bound to end in disaster. Just imagine raising a child with such an understanding: if I feel one way I tell it to do this, and if I feel different later I tell it something completely different. Itll end up being an adult with no discipline and means of orientation in life.
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Inlägg #6: Postat: 2002-05-23 12:30:00
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Frederik |
Same for relationships: if I rationalize all my feelings of the moment into a principle of my own making with some imagination I can justify anything I will never be able to create a relationship that lasts longer than the first romantic feelings. I guess at the core of the whole problem lies our unwillingness to accept that we cant have all our needs fulfilled everywhere and all the time. Impulsiveness is a bad basis for creating something meaningful and valuable.
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