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Inlägg #1: Postat: 2002-04-24 12:10:00
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Frederik |
But because that requires effort and is also often painful, we seem to try to avoid it. We can for instance choose instead to let a relationship become a kind of emotionless need-fulfilment-institution. Or we can change partners as soon as the feelings are gone, when in reality that should be a sign for us to get together and really get started with the real and more fulfilling labour of love.
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Inlägg #2: Postat: 2002-04-24 12:12:00
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Frederik |
Anyway, its hard to express in only a few words what I mean. But to cut a long story short and as a reaction to your article: love is real. It however takes a lot of work and lots of ups and downs to get and stay there. But its for sure worth the effort! P.S.: The most insightful books about love that Ive read so far were Erich Fromms The Art of Loving and Scott M. Pecks The Road Less Traveled. I?m sure Swedish translations do exist. And sorry again for my use of English.
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Inlägg #3: Postat: 2002-04-24 18:51:00
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Lollo |
The "real" kind love you are talking about is something most of us never get to know, because when its time for "the labour of love" the fucking piece of shit you thought loved you just runs away!!!!!! ... sorry, but its hard to love when the person you love claims that he/she doesnt love you anymore. oooouuuääää... Its hard to explain.
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Inlägg #4: Postat: 2002-04-24 21:20:00
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Anna Li |
To be certain; the love for your children takes a lot off effort and pain. It requires certainly that your open to growth and change and furthermore interested in it. Also in a lot of cases the love remains strong and firm long after the children have stoped loving you. You can still love a person even if your no longer free to express the love.
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Inlägg #5: Postat: 2002-04-24 23:27:00
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Frederik |
Its sure valid for kids. But certainly also for adults, dont you think? Arent the most beautiful couples those where both partners stimulate and help each other in growing through lifes different stages? The alternative to that is stagnation, either - in the case of dead marriages, in the dependency on one specific person, or - in the case of partner-hoppers in one specific stage or aspect of relationship.
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Inlägg #6: Postat: 2002-04-24 23:30:00
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Frederik |
As for pieces of shit running away: yeah... tough luck. I know thats no consolation to you, but those weren?t worth the effort of your real love anyway. The good side about it is that youll at least know what kind of person you shouldnt be looking for from now on.
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Inlägg #7: Postat: 2002-05-09 12:34:00
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lollo |
I cant stop loving him.
He turned a piece of shit when he left me and told me that he didnt even want my friendship.
Ill always love him, I cant help it.
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